A matrimonial advertisement in the newspaper leads to a terrible confusion in the mind of the concerned person, as suddenly there are innumerable people to choose from. I faced a similar situation, when I was loaded with continuous calls from all parts of the country. Out of the all the calls that were pouring in, there was one particular family from Bangalore who showed great interest in me. I wasn't too keen on the guy, nor was my dad. But still, we just gave it a thought and proceeded further. After the exchange of profiles, they insisted on meeting at the earliest possible time. Finally, after a long wait, the date was fixed - 18th October, 2008.
That day was already a special day for me, as it was my closest friend's birthday. I wished to celebrate it grandly as it was her last birthday here with me after which she would be moving to her new home far far away from me. But, destiny doesn't let you have your way everytime! I had no option but to say okay to go to Bangalore. Yeah the custom usually is that the guy visits the girl's place. But dad wanted me to have a look at the place where I might have to stay the rest of my life. So we went there instead.
Till the last minute I was in a state of confusion. Should I really be going there? The profile wasn't too impressive for me atleast. While at the airport, I told my dad that we could still cancel the trip. He remained silent. Later, before boarding the aircraft, he began to speak "Remember, don't make too much of a fuss. The boy is ready to accept you even with your drawback. Look at just two things - Will he keep you for life? Will he be able to feed you all your life?" I was quite shocked. My spinal surgery isn't a drawback that I should just accept any guy! Then I asked my dad "How would I know now whether he's gonna keep me with him for life?" Dad replied "That you have to see for yourself." I was left wondering at that.
We boarded the flight which was rather uncomfortable and seemed a long journey. Finally we arrived in Bangalore and had a long drive before we reached my uncle's place, who was going to accompany us for lunch and then to the guy's place. I was glad to meet uncle. We went to a restaurant to kill our hunger. There uncle advised me to talk to the guy freely and ask him everything I needed to know. My dad said that I shouldn't expect anything from them as now it's entirely on me whether I like the guy or not. If I do, then they will talk further. We then moved to our hotel room for some rest.
Soon we had to leave for the guy's house. I got ready but was still confused about how to dress up and how I'm supposed to behave over there, as I'd never experienced this before. We sat in the car, prepared for a long journey again. I was quite tensed, yet fell asleep to gain some relief. Finally we reached our destination. Contrary to what I expected, the guy came out to welcome us, introducing himself as KGK, while his parents were sitting inside. He greeted my dad, brother, uncle and aunt, and gave me a pleasant smile. We walked in and greeted his parents. I sat between my brother and aunt. He was seated opposite to me. I was just looking down at the floor most of the time. His parents and my uncle did most of the talking for about about ten minutes. My dad then suggested that the guy and I speak alone for a while, to which his parents agreed. So he led me to his room up the stairway.
"Don't mind the mess in my room" KGK said. I said "Oh it's alright!" He asked me to sit at the computer table while he sat on his bed. He then asked me to tell him about myself, my family, my likings etc., after which he did the same. Almost everything that he said was the opposite of what I liked and believed in. He said he doesn't follow the 70s-80s policy where the husband goes to work and the wife waits for him at home all day and just washes vessels and cooks food. He believed in both doing both - house work as well as professional work. He preferred to move out of his parent's house after marriage as he wanted privacy. In that case, since no one else would be at home, he wanted his wife to work full time too, so that she has nothing to crib about later on. I then expressed my view which was exactly the 70s-80s policy that he detested. He was surprised and asked me to think it over.
During our conversation, I realised the importance of friends in his life. His friends seemed to have been missing him so much as one by one they were calling him. Instead of ignoring those calls while having such an important discussion with me, he answered those calls! One friend asked "What are you upto?" KGK giggled "I'm attending an interview here!" I gave a sarcastic smile. "Is he really serious about this whole thing?" I wondered. No doubt friends have a great importance in my life too. But here was something more important than that, which maybe wasn't for him. Anyway, we talked further. I suddenly asked him, "Is this your own house?" He replied, "No, this is my father's house!" I laughed within. If I marry him by any chance, and one day I'm asked, "Is this your own house?" I would have to reply, "No, this is my husband's house!" Grrrr!! I certainly don't want this to happen to me! We ended our conversation finally, as I told him I would have to think about the working part.
We then walked down. I sat back next to my aunt who then served me some snacks, while KGK's mom got me a cup of tea. I'd never had tea in my whole life! But I couldn't possibly say a no here. So I just drank it quietly without making a fuss. His parents were engaged in a conversation with my uncle, which finally ended as dad wanted to leave. Dad said we would discuss the matter and get back to them the next day. After a long round of byes, we left from there. I joined my uncle and aunt in one car, while my dad and brother left in another car. I then discussed the matter with uncle who said the guy isn't bad after all. Dad suddenly called and said that since we're not meeting the guy again the next day, we might as well leave back to Chennai the next morning instead of taking the flight we booked for the next evening.
Uncle dropped me to a restaurant then, where I was joining dad and my brother for dinner. While over there, I told dad everything I discussed with the guy. Dad said an outright NO for the guy! I was quite shocked at that, after what my dad said at Chennai airport. But I was relieved. I could eat in peace. We then reached back to the hotel room. Though I didn't have a sound sleep, I was happy that dad didn't force me into anything I didn't wanna do. The next morning we took our flight back home.
A few days passed by. My dad didn't call them, nor did they. I was wondering maybe the guy didn't like me. To my surprise, he suddenly called me one day. He said his parents liked me alot, and even he enjoyed our conversation that day! I then told him that I wasn't okay with the idea of working full time, and indirectly told him a no. He then spoke to me for a while and hung up, sayin we could still be friends. He then started messaging me. Initially I replied, but now I avoid it. Does this friendship really mean anything? I doubt...
Sunday, November 9, 2008
Wednesday, July 16, 2008
Filmi Freaks' Day Out - 1
After a long dramatic night, with great emotional bonding between the few of us, it was difficult for me to get into the mood of meeting so many new people and talking about movies and stuff. For a moment I thought I shouldn’t go, as I didn’t wanna look gloomy out there :O But then this was the only chance I had to meet everyone, and also this was the purpose of me staying back till that day. So without thinking further, I left my place and reached the Studio.
On entering the place, I found Divs Sir, Arnab ji, Pritam ji, Akhtar ji, Rohit, Harsh, Punnu, Tashu, and few others, all involved in some work or the other. I quietly took a seat next to Punnu and Tashu and spoke a bit. Harsh also joined in. They were just occupied with the registration of people coming in. Soon, Shenith ji came in with a couple of guys, and it was really nice of him to identify me instantly and greet me :) After a while, Sajid ji came upto me and surprisingly he knew me too :) I was beginning to feel a bit more relaxed as I wasn’t a total stranger there. I also spoke to Akhtar ji for the first time. Pritam ji and Arnab ji were also kind enough to ask me about my trip. Slowly more people started coming in, whom I was seeing for the first time. I had noticed Dr. Ashok standing behind, but didn’t get a chance to speak to him.
It was time to begin with the introduction. We took our seats. Divs Sir gave us a short note on how the club had been formed and Arnab ji spoke about Gomolo. The lights then went off, and we got to watch the first performance of Jaya Bhaduri (Suman) and Vidhu Vinod Chopra (Murder At Monkey Hill) for FTI - pretty interesting ones. Just when all were engrossed in the film, Subur and Ambika entered in a rather filmi style :P , causing a slight chaos which thankfully lasted just for a few seconds. Many were surprised to see Ambika there! :)
Next on the agenda was a fight scene from “Shera” featuring Mithun Da. Sajid ji gave an interesting introduction to the film and other related Mithun Da’s films. Once the clip was on, there was laughter all over. The last scene was the most hilarious I felt :D
Finally, the quiz was about to begin. Since teams were selected on chit basis, I think most of our partners were someone we were meeting for the first time. Nishikant was my partner. We both couldn’t talk much and were busy thinking about our team name, something related to Salman, as we both liked him :P But finally, he chose the name Teen Numbari (we were the 3rd team). The preliminary round began. Very few questions were easy, some were confusing, and others quite tough. Thanks to Harsh, I guessed the 2nd one to be Choti Si Baat :D , which had to be right! 20 questions were done with soon. I was confident of not qualifying. Corrections followed up soon, and as expected, my team didn’t qualify :P :(
Suddenly Divs Sir appeared with his mobile in hand, saying that Suresh ji had called from the U.S. to greet everyone! :O That was quite a surprise! Everyone said a loud Hi in chorus. It felt good :)
Soon, as it was lunch time, some quick bites were distributed to us. We were busy munching, while Divs Sir screened the original version of the song Jaanu meri jaan… and also the color version of the song Abhi na jao chod kar… I was elated! :) Mohd. Rafi suddenly brought a broad smile on my face and I looked at Divs Sir with gratitude in my eyes :)
The top 6 teams, who qualified for the quiz, were then asked to be seated in front, one beside the other. Each round was based on a different theme and some great questions were asked, too tough to even guess :( But Pravir ji managed to crack most of them, quite instantly :O The other teams hardly got an opportunity to answer. There were also questions for the audience (those who didn’t qualify), and I guess Faiyaz (hope I’m right) answered most of them :)
There was still another round of quiz left, when I realised it was time to leave for the airport :( I had a flight to catch in a couple of hours. I told Divs Sir and then said a quick goodbye to everyone else. I wanted to say a lot, thanking everyone for all their effort, but I was out of words and also really upset about having to leave. I walked out of the room and looked behind wondering if anyone would come out, as I really wanted to meet everyone personally. To my amazement, I found Divs Sir right behind me :) He could make out I didn’t wanna leave, as my eyes said it all. Soon, Harsh, Rohit, Ambi, Subur and Tashu joined. We took a group photo. I wanted to bid farewell to Punnu too, but he was busy marking the scores inside :O Anyway, time was running out. I finally left with a heavy heart, as I was craving to spend more time with everyone :(
On the way to the airport, I was only thinking of ways to cancel my flight and stay back atleast for another day or two. But I couldn’t think of anything substantial. How I wished it would rain, or the roads get jammed, or my flight gets delayed or cancelled. Alas! All of that remained just a wish in the end! :( I boarded the flight and wept until I arrived in Chennai. This was the first time everything went right in my trip. I was just too happy and excited, at the same time depressed that I may not have such a chance again. I just didn’t wanna get back home for a change! :O :(
As for now, I’m still in Mumbai, though not physically present. I can still feel the noise on the roads, the raindrops, voices calling me, those silent tears, and everything else that made my trip so wonderful.
Thank you Divs Sir for convincing me to attend the meet and for organising it so well :) I know it must have been really hectic, managing so many things at the same time, both personal and professional. Also, thanks to Arnab ji, Pritam ji, Harsh, Devendra ji, Dr.Ashok and others who put in their effort too. It really paid off! :)
P.S. I really wanted to meet Sharib ji and see his performance, but it was plain bad timing of him to reach as soon as I left!! :( Anyway, hope there’s a next time. I also wanted to interact more with others like Shenith ji, Sajid ji, Akhtar ji, whom I found very friendly. Well I hope that happens in the next meet, if at all I can make it there too! Oh yeah, if it’s in Chennai, I’ll definitely be there! :)
On entering the place, I found Divs Sir, Arnab ji, Pritam ji, Akhtar ji, Rohit, Harsh, Punnu, Tashu, and few others, all involved in some work or the other. I quietly took a seat next to Punnu and Tashu and spoke a bit. Harsh also joined in. They were just occupied with the registration of people coming in. Soon, Shenith ji came in with a couple of guys, and it was really nice of him to identify me instantly and greet me :) After a while, Sajid ji came upto me and surprisingly he knew me too :) I was beginning to feel a bit more relaxed as I wasn’t a total stranger there. I also spoke to Akhtar ji for the first time. Pritam ji and Arnab ji were also kind enough to ask me about my trip. Slowly more people started coming in, whom I was seeing for the first time. I had noticed Dr. Ashok standing behind, but didn’t get a chance to speak to him.
It was time to begin with the introduction. We took our seats. Divs Sir gave us a short note on how the club had been formed and Arnab ji spoke about Gomolo. The lights then went off, and we got to watch the first performance of Jaya Bhaduri (Suman) and Vidhu Vinod Chopra (Murder At Monkey Hill) for FTI - pretty interesting ones. Just when all were engrossed in the film, Subur and Ambika entered in a rather filmi style :P , causing a slight chaos which thankfully lasted just for a few seconds. Many were surprised to see Ambika there! :)
Next on the agenda was a fight scene from “Shera” featuring Mithun Da. Sajid ji gave an interesting introduction to the film and other related Mithun Da’s films. Once the clip was on, there was laughter all over. The last scene was the most hilarious I felt :D
Finally, the quiz was about to begin. Since teams were selected on chit basis, I think most of our partners were someone we were meeting for the first time. Nishikant was my partner. We both couldn’t talk much and were busy thinking about our team name, something related to Salman, as we both liked him :P But finally, he chose the name Teen Numbari (we were the 3rd team). The preliminary round began. Very few questions were easy, some were confusing, and others quite tough. Thanks to Harsh, I guessed the 2nd one to be Choti Si Baat :D , which had to be right! 20 questions were done with soon. I was confident of not qualifying. Corrections followed up soon, and as expected, my team didn’t qualify :P :(
Suddenly Divs Sir appeared with his mobile in hand, saying that Suresh ji had called from the U.S. to greet everyone! :O That was quite a surprise! Everyone said a loud Hi in chorus. It felt good :)
Soon, as it was lunch time, some quick bites were distributed to us. We were busy munching, while Divs Sir screened the original version of the song Jaanu meri jaan… and also the color version of the song Abhi na jao chod kar… I was elated! :) Mohd. Rafi suddenly brought a broad smile on my face and I looked at Divs Sir with gratitude in my eyes :)
The top 6 teams, who qualified for the quiz, were then asked to be seated in front, one beside the other. Each round was based on a different theme and some great questions were asked, too tough to even guess :( But Pravir ji managed to crack most of them, quite instantly :O The other teams hardly got an opportunity to answer. There were also questions for the audience (those who didn’t qualify), and I guess Faiyaz (hope I’m right) answered most of them :)
There was still another round of quiz left, when I realised it was time to leave for the airport :( I had a flight to catch in a couple of hours. I told Divs Sir and then said a quick goodbye to everyone else. I wanted to say a lot, thanking everyone for all their effort, but I was out of words and also really upset about having to leave. I walked out of the room and looked behind wondering if anyone would come out, as I really wanted to meet everyone personally. To my amazement, I found Divs Sir right behind me :) He could make out I didn’t wanna leave, as my eyes said it all. Soon, Harsh, Rohit, Ambi, Subur and Tashu joined. We took a group photo. I wanted to bid farewell to Punnu too, but he was busy marking the scores inside :O Anyway, time was running out. I finally left with a heavy heart, as I was craving to spend more time with everyone :(
On the way to the airport, I was only thinking of ways to cancel my flight and stay back atleast for another day or two. But I couldn’t think of anything substantial. How I wished it would rain, or the roads get jammed, or my flight gets delayed or cancelled. Alas! All of that remained just a wish in the end! :( I boarded the flight and wept until I arrived in Chennai. This was the first time everything went right in my trip. I was just too happy and excited, at the same time depressed that I may not have such a chance again. I just didn’t wanna get back home for a change! :O :(
As for now, I’m still in Mumbai, though not physically present. I can still feel the noise on the roads, the raindrops, voices calling me, those silent tears, and everything else that made my trip so wonderful.
Thank you Divs Sir for convincing me to attend the meet and for organising it so well :) I know it must have been really hectic, managing so many things at the same time, both personal and professional. Also, thanks to Arnab ji, Pritam ji, Harsh, Devendra ji, Dr.Ashok and others who put in their effort too. It really paid off! :)
P.S. I really wanted to meet Sharib ji and see his performance, but it was plain bad timing of him to reach as soon as I left!! :( Anyway, hope there’s a next time. I also wanted to interact more with others like Shenith ji, Sajid ji, Akhtar ji, whom I found very friendly. Well I hope that happens in the next meet, if at all I can make it there too! Oh yeah, if it’s in Chennai, I’ll definitely be there! :)
Sunday, July 13, 2008
One Night to Remember!
12th July, 2008 - the one day/night I can never forget! :)
I decided to spend an entire day out in Mumbai with my friends D, R, H, S, P and T. R picked me up and we headed straight to the point where others were waiting for us, which was at the other end of the city. A long ride in the rickshaw seemed to be even longer, as we both remained quiet for some reason. Finally we reached the spot, and greeted everyone. It was great to meet everyone, few after a gap of 6 months, while the rest for the 1st time! We then set off to Nirmal Lifestyle Mall where we planned to watch a film and then just roam around.
On reaching the mall, we quickly booked the tickets for the film "Jaane tu.. Ya Jaane Na..." and then took a few pictures of everyone standing beside film posters. That was fun! Later we entered Crossword to just check out a few books and cds. We still had a few minutes to go before the movie started, so we just entered McDonalds to have a quick bite. Hmmm.... Yummmm.... :P I really miss that back in Chennai! We then headed straight into the hall, right on time for the movie! It was quite nice. This was the 1st time we were all watching a movie together, so it really is special :)
Next we headed to Yeour, a nice calm place with a lake side view, right at the bottom of a hill. A quick passing shower increased the beauty of the place. We were just planning about our Club meet the next day.
Later we got into the car and headed straight to Gymkhana Club, where we decided to have a good long chat and some dinner too. The journey to the club was amazing, with all of us singing our favourite songs in chorus, especially the rain numbers! On reaching the club, we made ourselves comfortable in the room and then got into the REAL mood. We played the TRUTH game. H was attacked first with all personal questions, which he answered pretty honestly, though now he might be feeling that he should have restricted himself a bit :P Finally we all got to answer similar questions, but none seemed more interesting than H's :D
R then put forth a new question to all of us - "Which was the worst moment of your life?" Everyone thought for a few seconds. D began with his account, and believe it or not, it just melted everyone's heart instantly, including the guys who seemed to appear strong from the outside. S then gave a detailed account of his, which touched everyone, especially H, as he felt the same too. Everyone's eyes were leaking! A sight never seen before, I guess by any of us. It was truly magical! The way we all connected with each other and literally cried for each other... it was really something special!
Hesitating to speak out freely, I just kept quiet while tears rolled down my eyes. Most of them knew about some of my worst moments anyway, so I just preferred to keep it off then. Later R talked about his life. A heartbreak may seem to be a common thing for many, but it truly is one of the worst things that can happen to someone. Being truly in love with a person and then getting kicked out, even after you have given up everything for that person, is like going through hell. I couldn't bear to see R's tears as I know how it feels :(
R also explained why he kept away from me for a few months, while I was busy trying to reach back to him. The reason he gave was quite unexpected, and it just struck my heart then, as someone really cared for me so much. I just stepped into the balcony, wanting to weep alone for a few minutes, but then that couldn't happen with so many people around who care for me. It was truly amazing to see that attachment.
P was very quiet all the while, but his face revealed that he had some problems too, which maybe he didn't want to talk about at that moment. T was just too moved by everyone's life and couldn't talk much.
Everyone has problems in life. We always think that "I am facing the biggest problem in life." But that night we realised that everyone has different problems, which cannot be said to be bigger or smaller. It's just the way you fight it out. If you are scared to face it, it only gets worse. But it was great to hear everyone taking up their problem as a challenge and crushing it down.
Finally we wiped our tears, and decided to have dinner, which we kept waiting for more than 2 hours! Even after dinner, we continued talking about our life. Slowly, one by one, we started feeling sleepy. D and H decided to leave back home and work on the meet for the next morning. S, R and I slept there for a while and left early morning back to our places. T and P were peacefully asleep.
I just wanted that night to go on and on... It brought all of us closer than we could ever imagine. I've never before seen a guy crying over another guy's problem. It was difficult to stop everyone's tears, as we were doing the same ourselves! But letting go whatever was within us, was good and much needed.
Friends we may have plenty, but those who can really feel what we're going through and who we really are, are rare to find these days. I'm glad I found some, and I wish to keep them forever! Love you guys... :)
I decided to spend an entire day out in Mumbai with my friends D, R, H, S, P and T. R picked me up and we headed straight to the point where others were waiting for us, which was at the other end of the city. A long ride in the rickshaw seemed to be even longer, as we both remained quiet for some reason. Finally we reached the spot, and greeted everyone. It was great to meet everyone, few after a gap of 6 months, while the rest for the 1st time! We then set off to Nirmal Lifestyle Mall where we planned to watch a film and then just roam around.
On reaching the mall, we quickly booked the tickets for the film "Jaane tu.. Ya Jaane Na..." and then took a few pictures of everyone standing beside film posters. That was fun! Later we entered Crossword to just check out a few books and cds. We still had a few minutes to go before the movie started, so we just entered McDonalds to have a quick bite. Hmmm.... Yummmm.... :P I really miss that back in Chennai! We then headed straight into the hall, right on time for the movie! It was quite nice. This was the 1st time we were all watching a movie together, so it really is special :)
Next we headed to Yeour, a nice calm place with a lake side view, right at the bottom of a hill. A quick passing shower increased the beauty of the place. We were just planning about our Club meet the next day.
Later we got into the car and headed straight to Gymkhana Club, where we decided to have a good long chat and some dinner too. The journey to the club was amazing, with all of us singing our favourite songs in chorus, especially the rain numbers! On reaching the club, we made ourselves comfortable in the room and then got into the REAL mood. We played the TRUTH game. H was attacked first with all personal questions, which he answered pretty honestly, though now he might be feeling that he should have restricted himself a bit :P Finally we all got to answer similar questions, but none seemed more interesting than H's :D
R then put forth a new question to all of us - "Which was the worst moment of your life?" Everyone thought for a few seconds. D began with his account, and believe it or not, it just melted everyone's heart instantly, including the guys who seemed to appear strong from the outside. S then gave a detailed account of his, which touched everyone, especially H, as he felt the same too. Everyone's eyes were leaking! A sight never seen before, I guess by any of us. It was truly magical! The way we all connected with each other and literally cried for each other... it was really something special!
Hesitating to speak out freely, I just kept quiet while tears rolled down my eyes. Most of them knew about some of my worst moments anyway, so I just preferred to keep it off then. Later R talked about his life. A heartbreak may seem to be a common thing for many, but it truly is one of the worst things that can happen to someone. Being truly in love with a person and then getting kicked out, even after you have given up everything for that person, is like going through hell. I couldn't bear to see R's tears as I know how it feels :(
R also explained why he kept away from me for a few months, while I was busy trying to reach back to him. The reason he gave was quite unexpected, and it just struck my heart then, as someone really cared for me so much. I just stepped into the balcony, wanting to weep alone for a few minutes, but then that couldn't happen with so many people around who care for me. It was truly amazing to see that attachment.
P was very quiet all the while, but his face revealed that he had some problems too, which maybe he didn't want to talk about at that moment. T was just too moved by everyone's life and couldn't talk much.
Everyone has problems in life. We always think that "I am facing the biggest problem in life." But that night we realised that everyone has different problems, which cannot be said to be bigger or smaller. It's just the way you fight it out. If you are scared to face it, it only gets worse. But it was great to hear everyone taking up their problem as a challenge and crushing it down.
Finally we wiped our tears, and decided to have dinner, which we kept waiting for more than 2 hours! Even after dinner, we continued talking about our life. Slowly, one by one, we started feeling sleepy. D and H decided to leave back home and work on the meet for the next morning. S, R and I slept there for a while and left early morning back to our places. T and P were peacefully asleep.
I just wanted that night to go on and on... It brought all of us closer than we could ever imagine. I've never before seen a guy crying over another guy's problem. It was difficult to stop everyone's tears, as we were doing the same ourselves! But letting go whatever was within us, was good and much needed.
Friends we may have plenty, but those who can really feel what we're going through and who we really are, are rare to find these days. I'm glad I found some, and I wish to keep them forever! Love you guys... :)
Sunday, July 6, 2008
An Unusual Sunday...
My friends and i had just arrived at the airport after a great trip to some adventurous place. I suddenly out of nowhere hear a song (tune actually), none other than "Saanson ko saanson mein dhalne do zara..."! :O Wondering where that came from, I suddenly opened my eyes and realised I was dreaming and my mobile phone had rung!! It was the phone which was assigned for matrimony purpose. I saw 2 missed calls and looked at the time. It was just 7a.m. Why on earth do people call at such odd hours, that too on a Sunday?!? :x
I lay down trying to get back to sleep, but I heard the tune again. I ignored it twice. It rang again, and this time I answered the call. The guy over the phone must have found me so sleepy that he disconnected just after I said a hello! Thanking my stars, I again lay down. I guess it was too early to thank them :O The phone rang again and the guy speaks in Tamil. I was like &*^$%&%$R :x and hung up! But he called back again. This time I let him speak a few words and then asked him "Do you know English?" He said no and continued in Tamil. I then said "I dont know Tamil" even though I knew, and hung up again. Thankfully he didnt call back again. Idiot! :x Cant he see that we've asked for a Punjabi groom :P Even if not Punjabi, he should atleast know English!
I barely kept that one down, another call came in. This time someone from Kerala, Punjabi though, called in and I asked him to email his details. Another 2 minutes and I get to attend another call, someone from Chennai. So basically receiving one call after the other is what I was doing till about 12:30 p.m. I decided to go out for lunch to get away from all this. I left home by 2 p.m. and I did carry the mobile along too. Calls kept coming in, but I didnt receive any as there was too much noise around. Finally after a long chat with my friends, I reached home at 6 p.m. I then took the mobile and went for a walk, calling back all those numbers I missed. Finally by 7 p.m. calls had ceased to come and I felt a bit relieved. Phew! :P
Let me describe a few of them here.
A lady had called from Dehradun looking for a match for her son. She said they are settled in Dubai and are looking for a Punjabi girl from the West or the South as these girls seem to be more decent, trustworthy and educated :P I was like... Wow! She then asked me if I'm interested in settling in Dubai, to which I said I would have to discuss with my father about it. She kept talking non-stop about her family and about how problems arise and we should not get boggled down by all that. Yeah right! :P She finally paused, and I said I will ask my father to call you back, Thank You! :P
A guy had called up from Bhubhaneshwar, Orissa (the place I simply hate the most). He asked me a bit about myself and then asked if I'm on Orkut! I said a NO! I sounded completely disinterested, but he still said he would e-mail me his details. As if I care! Duh!!!
I spoke to a girl from Himachal Pradesh who was looking for a groom. I was looking for my brother as well. I got out a few details from her. She sounded pretty sweet. She spoke very gently, thinking i was an elderly person. After a while, I told her I'm the guy's younger sister and she was all cool then. Man! Age does matter! :P I anyway told her I'll talk to my brother about her and get back then.
P.S. All calls were in response to an advertisement given by dad in the newspaper. I had never thought I would attend non-stop calls in a day, about 50-60 atleast. Speaking to so many strangers at one go, was one thing I never imagined doing! :O But I guess, time teaches you everything. I suddenly could speak like a shy bride, or an easy-going sister-in-law :D The word I used the most was "Haanji!" I guess that would become a part of my day-to-day language soon :P
This day has truly been one of the most interesting days of my life! :)
One problem I'm facing now is that I can still hear "Saanson ko saanson mein dhalne do zara..." ring in my ears, even though the phone is off since hours! I hope I have a good sleep and wake up completely normal tomorrow. :)
I lay down trying to get back to sleep, but I heard the tune again. I ignored it twice. It rang again, and this time I answered the call. The guy over the phone must have found me so sleepy that he disconnected just after I said a hello! Thanking my stars, I again lay down. I guess it was too early to thank them :O The phone rang again and the guy speaks in Tamil. I was like &*^$%&%$R :x and hung up! But he called back again. This time I let him speak a few words and then asked him "Do you know English?" He said no and continued in Tamil. I then said "I dont know Tamil" even though I knew, and hung up again. Thankfully he didnt call back again. Idiot! :x Cant he see that we've asked for a Punjabi groom :P Even if not Punjabi, he should atleast know English!
I barely kept that one down, another call came in. This time someone from Kerala, Punjabi though, called in and I asked him to email his details. Another 2 minutes and I get to attend another call, someone from Chennai. So basically receiving one call after the other is what I was doing till about 12:30 p.m. I decided to go out for lunch to get away from all this. I left home by 2 p.m. and I did carry the mobile along too. Calls kept coming in, but I didnt receive any as there was too much noise around. Finally after a long chat with my friends, I reached home at 6 p.m. I then took the mobile and went for a walk, calling back all those numbers I missed. Finally by 7 p.m. calls had ceased to come and I felt a bit relieved. Phew! :P
Let me describe a few of them here.
A lady had called from Dehradun looking for a match for her son. She said they are settled in Dubai and are looking for a Punjabi girl from the West or the South as these girls seem to be more decent, trustworthy and educated :P I was like... Wow! She then asked me if I'm interested in settling in Dubai, to which I said I would have to discuss with my father about it. She kept talking non-stop about her family and about how problems arise and we should not get boggled down by all that. Yeah right! :P She finally paused, and I said I will ask my father to call you back, Thank You! :P
A guy had called up from Bhubhaneshwar, Orissa (the place I simply hate the most). He asked me a bit about myself and then asked if I'm on Orkut! I said a NO! I sounded completely disinterested, but he still said he would e-mail me his details. As if I care! Duh!!!
I spoke to a girl from Himachal Pradesh who was looking for a groom. I was looking for my brother as well. I got out a few details from her. She sounded pretty sweet. She spoke very gently, thinking i was an elderly person. After a while, I told her I'm the guy's younger sister and she was all cool then. Man! Age does matter! :P I anyway told her I'll talk to my brother about her and get back then.
P.S. All calls were in response to an advertisement given by dad in the newspaper. I had never thought I would attend non-stop calls in a day, about 50-60 atleast. Speaking to so many strangers at one go, was one thing I never imagined doing! :O But I guess, time teaches you everything. I suddenly could speak like a shy bride, or an easy-going sister-in-law :D The word I used the most was "Haanji!" I guess that would become a part of my day-to-day language soon :P
This day has truly been one of the most interesting days of my life! :)
One problem I'm facing now is that I can still hear "Saanson ko saanson mein dhalne do zara..." ring in my ears, even though the phone is off since hours! I hope I have a good sleep and wake up completely normal tomorrow. :)
Monday, April 28, 2008
Alone... Safe or Hazardous??
'She' was accustomed to doing almost everything that she likes, alone! Be it long drives, evening walks, shopping, sipping coffee at any cafe, or even staying at home - everything She could do alone.
Lately She developed the habit of going to the theatre alone, especially if it wasn't a movie her friends were interested in, or if She was watching the movie for a 2nd or 3rd time. This was not because She wanted to. She just had to! She cannot always depend on others to do anything that She wants to. At first, She was quite hesitant, thinking about what people would be thinking of her. But suddenly She became cool about it and gave a damn to what people thought! She knew people who watched movies alone and were content doing so!
Her first day alone at the theatre wasn't too smooth. She got to her seat, only to find some guys giggling away. One of them actually commented to the other "Why dont you go and give her company? She's all alone!" Yeah as if She needed someone to take care of her!! Anyway, She just concentrated on the movie thereafter, and didn't bother about the stares other people gave her. Once the movie was over, She was relaxed. She actually felt hardly any difference, 'cause anyway She doesn't talk to anyone during the movie. She kinda liked the experience and thought it's not that bad an idea after all! So this continued at regular intervals.
One day, She walked into the theatre which was housefull. Two girls sitting beside her were yapping away to glory, as if they had a non-stop talking contest going on. She was frustrated, but kept her cool and tried to enjoy the movie, which She was watching for the 2nd time. It was interval soon. She stood in the queue to get some pop corn to munch. She noticed a guy standing right next to her, who was in the next queue. She bought the pop corn, and coincidentally he bought one too! There was a counter with all the spices kept in different containers, which one could add according to one's taste. As She was adding each flavour, the guy was adding the same one by one! Arghhh! She wanted to question him, but then She just ignored it then. The movie resumed. The guy seemed to be staring at her right till the end.
While walking out after the movie ended, She noticed he was walking quite close to her. He kept an eye on her right till She got into her car. She noticed him waiting outside the gate on his bike, and he was looking at her. Wondering what to do, She thought it wasn't safe to drive back home, 'cause then he would know where She lives. So She took the other way and drove slowly. But he drove slower and stayed behind her, following her. Many diversions came on the way. She tried to confuse him by going left and right, but it didn't seem to work. He was right there! So She called up her friend and asked him to wait just outside his house. She thought atleast this way the guy would finally get away. And thats exactly what happened! She reached her friend's place. The guy came right till there, and on seeing her friend, he turned away. Phew! Guys I tell you... What do they gain by following girls? There's no way a girl can fall for such guys, if that's what they're thinking... It's absolutely sick.
She even thought of complaining to the cops, but She didn't find anyone around; nor was She sure that's the right thing to do, as She didn't want to make a big issue out of this. Now She's being advised not to go for movies alone hereafter, but should one such experience really blow up her confidence??? Something to think about... I think She's pretty strong!
Lately She developed the habit of going to the theatre alone, especially if it wasn't a movie her friends were interested in, or if She was watching the movie for a 2nd or 3rd time. This was not because She wanted to. She just had to! She cannot always depend on others to do anything that She wants to. At first, She was quite hesitant, thinking about what people would be thinking of her. But suddenly She became cool about it and gave a damn to what people thought! She knew people who watched movies alone and were content doing so!
Her first day alone at the theatre wasn't too smooth. She got to her seat, only to find some guys giggling away. One of them actually commented to the other "Why dont you go and give her company? She's all alone!" Yeah as if She needed someone to take care of her!! Anyway, She just concentrated on the movie thereafter, and didn't bother about the stares other people gave her. Once the movie was over, She was relaxed. She actually felt hardly any difference, 'cause anyway She doesn't talk to anyone during the movie. She kinda liked the experience and thought it's not that bad an idea after all! So this continued at regular intervals.
One day, She walked into the theatre which was housefull. Two girls sitting beside her were yapping away to glory, as if they had a non-stop talking contest going on. She was frustrated, but kept her cool and tried to enjoy the movie, which She was watching for the 2nd time. It was interval soon. She stood in the queue to get some pop corn to munch. She noticed a guy standing right next to her, who was in the next queue. She bought the pop corn, and coincidentally he bought one too! There was a counter with all the spices kept in different containers, which one could add according to one's taste. As She was adding each flavour, the guy was adding the same one by one! Arghhh! She wanted to question him, but then She just ignored it then. The movie resumed. The guy seemed to be staring at her right till the end.
While walking out after the movie ended, She noticed he was walking quite close to her. He kept an eye on her right till She got into her car. She noticed him waiting outside the gate on his bike, and he was looking at her. Wondering what to do, She thought it wasn't safe to drive back home, 'cause then he would know where She lives. So She took the other way and drove slowly. But he drove slower and stayed behind her, following her. Many diversions came on the way. She tried to confuse him by going left and right, but it didn't seem to work. He was right there! So She called up her friend and asked him to wait just outside his house. She thought atleast this way the guy would finally get away. And thats exactly what happened! She reached her friend's place. The guy came right till there, and on seeing her friend, he turned away. Phew! Guys I tell you... What do they gain by following girls? There's no way a girl can fall for such guys, if that's what they're thinking... It's absolutely sick.
She even thought of complaining to the cops, but She didn't find anyone around; nor was She sure that's the right thing to do, as She didn't want to make a big issue out of this. Now She's being advised not to go for movies alone hereafter, but should one such experience really blow up her confidence??? Something to think about... I think She's pretty strong!
Tuesday, April 8, 2008
One for sorrow... Two for sorrow again :(
'She' was completely shaken by the twists and turns her life had just taken, and was just getting over them. New friends came along and new activities kept her engaged for sometime. But, as fate wanted it, another twist had made its way into her roller-coaster life.
A friend, whom she hardly knew for a few months, had suddenly become more than a friend! Things were absolutely normal between them, as with all friends, when suddenly a common friend of their's had told her that 'He' would be proposing her, to be his, the very next day! She was bewildered. She had no clue how to react! She liked him, but did she like him to that extent? Anyway, she stopped thinking about it till that moment came.
The next day, the three of them were out whiling away time. She was wondering if he's really gonna do it, and maybe He was wondering whether he should do it, while their friend was supposedly waiting for it to happen. Time was running out, she had to leave. At the last minute, before leaving, He gave her a strand of hair and left! She reached home and was still wondering what did that mean? She called him to find out. After testing her patience, he finally said that it was her hair, which he taken a month back from her, without her knowledge! He said that the way he had taken care of that hair-strand (which is really really difficult, believe me), the same way he would like to take care of her all her life!! Oh boy! She was awe-struck. She knew not what to say. He told her to take her time and to think about it. She did so.
She was in love with what he just did for her! But still, she wasn't too sure if she should give a positive reply. She wrote a poem for him, stating that she liked him, but couldn't say a YES as yet! He loved the poem, but believed that her response will be YES soon! And boy, wasn't he right!! It took hardly a few weeks for her to make up her mind. She believed he was her soul-mate. She could see his love for her and his loyalty too. He was different from other guys. The small things that he did for her, gave her immense pleasure. He had a charming personality and quite a grave voice. He was quite a serious person though, and very short-tempered. He wasn't easy to get along with, and wasn't jovial either. He had a few bad habits too, which he got rid off for her sake, and also 'cause now he longed for a healthy happy life.
Days passed by. They used to meet often. They were still in college then. They used to study together, watch movies together, cook and do what not! They went to amusement parks, along with other friends, sat on those crazy rides and enjoyed laughing all the way! She made him play Holi, and do other such things which he hadn't done ever before. They had a ball of a time for a few months.
Suddenly, time ceased to favour them. Her folks were sensing something wrong. She had to keep things low for the time being. She told him that she would not be meeting him often for a few weeks and they would have to keep all this low for a while, till her issues at home get settled. But alas! He failed to understand her. He felt that she was over him! He started avoiding her, and succumbed to loneliness. She tried her best to talk to him and explain things, in vain.
After a few days, it was his birthday. She called to wish him, but he never answered. She remembered him telling her that he would go to some distant place on his birthday, as he wanted no one around him. But still, she decided to take a chance. She went to his place, along with a friend, with a cake and gifts for him. She rang the doorbell. His best friend opened it, and was stunned to see her. He welcomed them in, hesitatingly. She lit up the cake and entered His room. What did she see? Lots of people, a movie on, all enjoying. He was even doing something which he had supposedly given up for her. She was happy that he was enjoying, but was sad that he had lied to her about wanting to be alone! Anyway, she asked him to cut the cake. Instead, he pushed the cake aside. He held her tight and screamed at her for coming there (the audience there enjoying the show). She was out of words. He then raised his hand, and before he could touch her, she bent down and ran out of his clutches. Her friend was shocked and scared to see that! They both quietly ran off from there, picking up the cake and gifts, and throwing them into the waste-bin on the road.
That was the end of that love-story. A few days later, he apologised for what he did, but she couldn't accept him back. Another thing that put them apart was over-possessiveness. He wanted her to be there always, but when she couldn't, due to valid reasons, he used to go wild. The only thing she feared was anger and ill-treatment (which she used to face at home), and that's what she encountered again, from the person she loved the most. Love didn't die, but she didn't long to be with him thereafter. Where there is lack of respect, even love cannot hold two souls together.
However, they still keep in touch, as they still care about each other... :)
A friend, whom she hardly knew for a few months, had suddenly become more than a friend! Things were absolutely normal between them, as with all friends, when suddenly a common friend of their's had told her that 'He' would be proposing her, to be his, the very next day! She was bewildered. She had no clue how to react! She liked him, but did she like him to that extent? Anyway, she stopped thinking about it till that moment came.
The next day, the three of them were out whiling away time. She was wondering if he's really gonna do it, and maybe He was wondering whether he should do it, while their friend was supposedly waiting for it to happen. Time was running out, she had to leave. At the last minute, before leaving, He gave her a strand of hair and left! She reached home and was still wondering what did that mean? She called him to find out. After testing her patience, he finally said that it was her hair, which he taken a month back from her, without her knowledge! He said that the way he had taken care of that hair-strand (which is really really difficult, believe me), the same way he would like to take care of her all her life!! Oh boy! She was awe-struck. She knew not what to say. He told her to take her time and to think about it. She did so.
She was in love with what he just did for her! But still, she wasn't too sure if she should give a positive reply. She wrote a poem for him, stating that she liked him, but couldn't say a YES as yet! He loved the poem, but believed that her response will be YES soon! And boy, wasn't he right!! It took hardly a few weeks for her to make up her mind. She believed he was her soul-mate. She could see his love for her and his loyalty too. He was different from other guys. The small things that he did for her, gave her immense pleasure. He had a charming personality and quite a grave voice. He was quite a serious person though, and very short-tempered. He wasn't easy to get along with, and wasn't jovial either. He had a few bad habits too, which he got rid off for her sake, and also 'cause now he longed for a healthy happy life.
Days passed by. They used to meet often. They were still in college then. They used to study together, watch movies together, cook and do what not! They went to amusement parks, along with other friends, sat on those crazy rides and enjoyed laughing all the way! She made him play Holi, and do other such things which he hadn't done ever before. They had a ball of a time for a few months.
Suddenly, time ceased to favour them. Her folks were sensing something wrong. She had to keep things low for the time being. She told him that she would not be meeting him often for a few weeks and they would have to keep all this low for a while, till her issues at home get settled. But alas! He failed to understand her. He felt that she was over him! He started avoiding her, and succumbed to loneliness. She tried her best to talk to him and explain things, in vain.
After a few days, it was his birthday. She called to wish him, but he never answered. She remembered him telling her that he would go to some distant place on his birthday, as he wanted no one around him. But still, she decided to take a chance. She went to his place, along with a friend, with a cake and gifts for him. She rang the doorbell. His best friend opened it, and was stunned to see her. He welcomed them in, hesitatingly. She lit up the cake and entered His room. What did she see? Lots of people, a movie on, all enjoying. He was even doing something which he had supposedly given up for her. She was happy that he was enjoying, but was sad that he had lied to her about wanting to be alone! Anyway, she asked him to cut the cake. Instead, he pushed the cake aside. He held her tight and screamed at her for coming there (the audience there enjoying the show). She was out of words. He then raised his hand, and before he could touch her, she bent down and ran out of his clutches. Her friend was shocked and scared to see that! They both quietly ran off from there, picking up the cake and gifts, and throwing them into the waste-bin on the road.
That was the end of that love-story. A few days later, he apologised for what he did, but she couldn't accept him back. Another thing that put them apart was over-possessiveness. He wanted her to be there always, but when she couldn't, due to valid reasons, he used to go wild. The only thing she feared was anger and ill-treatment (which she used to face at home), and that's what she encountered again, from the person she loved the most. Love didn't die, but she didn't long to be with him thereafter. Where there is lack of respect, even love cannot hold two souls together.
However, they still keep in touch, as they still care about each other... :)
Monday, March 17, 2008
The Best - through the Worst of times !
There was a girl in school who used to be known for her silence and hard work. She was quite good at studies and at sports too. I remember she always used to write on blackboards, whenever notes were to be written, and she never hesitated. Initially she didn't like studies, but she started feeling the need to do well. She also took part in alot of sports activities like Shuttle Badminton, Ball Badminton, Gymnastics, Martial Arts (Tai Chi) and a few others. She loved to March Past too!
Years passed by, and then came a turning point in her life. When she was in the 9th standard, suddenly she started getting comments like "You're not standing straight", "You're not walking straight" and so on. She observed her own posture as well, but never really found it a major concern. She just ignored all those comments.
Concentrating only on her studies, and her short-lived career in Badminton, she ignored everything else. She was going through some tough situations at home as well. But that didn't really affect her studies. Time passed by and she wrote her +2 board examinations. She then gave a thought about all that occurred in the last few years. She wondered if something was really wrong with her that she actually received such personal comments, time and again. She then decided she would tell her folks about it. Sensing some kind of a problem, she went to the doctor, who made her take a few scans, etc.
She got the biggest shock of her life! She had Scoliosis! She hadn't even heard of such a thing before. Her spine was curved as the doctor put it. That needed rectification by inserting rods and screws to straighten the spine! She did alot of research on it, and also watched a video of the actual surgery to be done. It was like a horror film. Her folks discouraged her, as even the doctor warned her of paralysis or something even worse than that! She was going to be the first once in the state to have such an operation. The doctor even suggested she could do it in another country. But she was brave enough and decided she would take a chance here only, so that she could have her loved ones around her.
The doctor announced the surgery date, which would be after a month. The entire last week, just before the operation, she had the time of her life, as if it were her last few days on earth! She had a caretaker-cum-friend, of her age almost, who was her partner in all the fun she had.
The day arrived. She was lying there in the operation theater, being cut open, where the titanium rods could be fitted. I believe the operation lasted for about 8 hours, after which she regained half consciousness, when she was being hit to find out if she was in good condition or paralyzed!! Ahh that was something scary. By God's grace, she responded which meant she was absolutely fine.
She had to stay in the hospital for about 11 days. Again, those were few of the best days of her life. She received so much care and affection from most people she knew, including her friends and school teachers! Even the doctors and nurses were so friendly. She had a gala time! I remember, the teachers were so affectionate, they even fed her an apple, which took her almost one hour to finish! What patience they had!! Phew! Yeah but she had to sacrifice on her normal diet of junk food like French Fries and Pani Puri, which were her favourites. Her friends did let her have a bit of them though. That was really sweet. Not to forget, her caretaker did a wonderful job giving her everything she wanted and taking such good care of her.
Meanwhile, the doctors were doing their job as well. Her lungs had become weak. She had to do some breathing exercises to become absolutely normal. That didn't take long. She also had to wear braces around her torso, which would give support to her back, until it became rigid enough. She started walking, initially with some support. She soon was able to stand on her on feet, and could return home. She was elated to get back to normal life again, though she would miss those hospital times!
Back home, she had a really warm welcome, like it was her second birth! She was lucky she had her loved ones around her(though not all), for it was they who helped her through those hard times.
What's more? Her exam results were out and she faired very well! Despite the worries she had from all sides, she made her folks, friends and teachers proud of her, which in turn was a proud moment for her! Well done, my girl... :)
One thing she still misses is the Badminton tournaments. She wanted to make it real big on that front, but it couldn't happen as the doctor warned her against it. Nevertheless, she still continues to play now and then, as a part of leisure. Her folks are just worried if this surgery would prove to be a hindrance in her marital alliance. Is it really that big a concern, when she's absolutely normal now? I guess only guys can answer this...
Years passed by, and then came a turning point in her life. When she was in the 9th standard, suddenly she started getting comments like "You're not standing straight", "You're not walking straight" and so on. She observed her own posture as well, but never really found it a major concern. She just ignored all those comments.
Concentrating only on her studies, and her short-lived career in Badminton, she ignored everything else. She was going through some tough situations at home as well. But that didn't really affect her studies. Time passed by and she wrote her +2 board examinations. She then gave a thought about all that occurred in the last few years. She wondered if something was really wrong with her that she actually received such personal comments, time and again. She then decided she would tell her folks about it. Sensing some kind of a problem, she went to the doctor, who made her take a few scans, etc.
She got the biggest shock of her life! She had Scoliosis! She hadn't even heard of such a thing before. Her spine was curved as the doctor put it. That needed rectification by inserting rods and screws to straighten the spine! She did alot of research on it, and also watched a video of the actual surgery to be done. It was like a horror film. Her folks discouraged her, as even the doctor warned her of paralysis or something even worse than that! She was going to be the first once in the state to have such an operation. The doctor even suggested she could do it in another country. But she was brave enough and decided she would take a chance here only, so that she could have her loved ones around her.
The doctor announced the surgery date, which would be after a month. The entire last week, just before the operation, she had the time of her life, as if it were her last few days on earth! She had a caretaker-cum-friend, of her age almost, who was her partner in all the fun she had.
The day arrived. She was lying there in the operation theater, being cut open, where the titanium rods could be fitted. I believe the operation lasted for about 8 hours, after which she regained half consciousness, when she was being hit to find out if she was in good condition or paralyzed!! Ahh that was something scary. By God's grace, she responded which meant she was absolutely fine.
She had to stay in the hospital for about 11 days. Again, those were few of the best days of her life. She received so much care and affection from most people she knew, including her friends and school teachers! Even the doctors and nurses were so friendly. She had a gala time! I remember, the teachers were so affectionate, they even fed her an apple, which took her almost one hour to finish! What patience they had!! Phew! Yeah but she had to sacrifice on her normal diet of junk food like French Fries and Pani Puri, which were her favourites. Her friends did let her have a bit of them though. That was really sweet. Not to forget, her caretaker did a wonderful job giving her everything she wanted and taking such good care of her.
Meanwhile, the doctors were doing their job as well. Her lungs had become weak. She had to do some breathing exercises to become absolutely normal. That didn't take long. She also had to wear braces around her torso, which would give support to her back, until it became rigid enough. She started walking, initially with some support. She soon was able to stand on her on feet, and could return home. She was elated to get back to normal life again, though she would miss those hospital times!
Back home, she had a really warm welcome, like it was her second birth! She was lucky she had her loved ones around her(though not all), for it was they who helped her through those hard times.
What's more? Her exam results were out and she faired very well! Despite the worries she had from all sides, she made her folks, friends and teachers proud of her, which in turn was a proud moment for her! Well done, my girl... :)
One thing she still misses is the Badminton tournaments. She wanted to make it real big on that front, but it couldn't happen as the doctor warned her against it. Nevertheless, she still continues to play now and then, as a part of leisure. Her folks are just worried if this surgery would prove to be a hindrance in her marital alliance. Is it really that big a concern, when she's absolutely normal now? I guess only guys can answer this...
Sunday, March 16, 2008
Marriage - The best gamble of life! Play to Win...
"Marriage is a book of which the first chapter is written in poetry and the remaining chapters in prose" said Beverley Nichols. How true is that?!?!?!?!?
The thought of marriage itself gives creeps, yet it gives a sort of comfort especially to the one who has nothing to lose! For those who really haven't led a good childhood or a peaceful life back home, marriage is something they look forward to, with the hope of having a better life. At the same time, there is the fear of leading the same life as in the past.
There's no bigger gamble in life than Marriage! Whether you marry a person you know or you don't know, it still is a huge gamble! A person can change within a flash of a moment. What if the one you love, doesn't love you anymore? What if his interest in you doesn't last any longer than a gold fish?!? Is it easy to live your entire life with a person who isn't as loyal to you as before? Are you ready for compromises? Are you ready to leave your past behind, and make a beautiful future? Are you ready to sacrifice your personal interests in order to have a peaceful home? Are you willing to take up all the responsibilities of a home-maker? All such questions keep hitting the mind hard, until you have a concrete answer. Once you have positive answers to these questions, marriage may seem a bit easier.
Someone rightly proclaimed "An object in possession seldom retains the same charm that it had in pursuit." So it is important to keep that interest everlasting. Success in marriage is not finding the right mate, it is instead being the right mate. Sharing the same wavelength with your partner is the most important ingredient for success. More than love or anything else, it is the understanding that counts. If the two fail to understand and support each other, love fades out eventually. But when you respect one another's feelings, love seems to grow even more.
Marriage could be Arranged or a result of True Love. Love Marriage is where two people find their soul-mates themselves and are ready to get united. Arranged Marriage is where after being pronounced man and wife, you learn to love and respect each other. Actually speaking, there's not much of a difference. Some people might say it's better to know a person before you marry him/her. But it's a known fact that change is inevitable. Everyone changes in some way or the other, from time to time. It's just important that the change is for the better. Yes if you dont know the person you're married to, and he turns out to be a bitter person, it gets real tough. But love can change anything in this world. You only need patience and courage to get through tough situations. 'Love unconditionally' is all that it takes to make a happy marriage.
"A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person" said Mignon McLaughlin. This is one of the best quotes I've ever heard. So simple and true.
I believe Marriage is essential and a lovely institution created on earth, inspite of all the negativities we get to see/hear these days.
The thought of marriage itself gives creeps, yet it gives a sort of comfort especially to the one who has nothing to lose! For those who really haven't led a good childhood or a peaceful life back home, marriage is something they look forward to, with the hope of having a better life. At the same time, there is the fear of leading the same life as in the past.
There's no bigger gamble in life than Marriage! Whether you marry a person you know or you don't know, it still is a huge gamble! A person can change within a flash of a moment. What if the one you love, doesn't love you anymore? What if his interest in you doesn't last any longer than a gold fish?!? Is it easy to live your entire life with a person who isn't as loyal to you as before? Are you ready for compromises? Are you ready to leave your past behind, and make a beautiful future? Are you ready to sacrifice your personal interests in order to have a peaceful home? Are you willing to take up all the responsibilities of a home-maker? All such questions keep hitting the mind hard, until you have a concrete answer. Once you have positive answers to these questions, marriage may seem a bit easier.
Someone rightly proclaimed "An object in possession seldom retains the same charm that it had in pursuit." So it is important to keep that interest everlasting. Success in marriage is not finding the right mate, it is instead being the right mate. Sharing the same wavelength with your partner is the most important ingredient for success. More than love or anything else, it is the understanding that counts. If the two fail to understand and support each other, love fades out eventually. But when you respect one another's feelings, love seems to grow even more.
Marriage could be Arranged or a result of True Love. Love Marriage is where two people find their soul-mates themselves and are ready to get united. Arranged Marriage is where after being pronounced man and wife, you learn to love and respect each other. Actually speaking, there's not much of a difference. Some people might say it's better to know a person before you marry him/her. But it's a known fact that change is inevitable. Everyone changes in some way or the other, from time to time. It's just important that the change is for the better. Yes if you dont know the person you're married to, and he turns out to be a bitter person, it gets real tough. But love can change anything in this world. You only need patience and courage to get through tough situations. 'Love unconditionally' is all that it takes to make a happy marriage.
"A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person" said Mignon McLaughlin. This is one of the best quotes I've ever heard. So simple and true.
I believe Marriage is essential and a lovely institution created on earth, inspite of all the negativities we get to see/hear these days.
Tuesday, March 11, 2008
Love Crushed ?!?
'SHE' was an innocent little girl, who tried her best to keep everyone around her happy. She seldom said 'No' to anyone for anything. She laughed and cried along with others, whatever mood She may have been in.
While struggling through a crisis situation, She was approached by this seemingly charming guy who indirectly claimed to be in love with her. When He confessed his feelings for her, She could not deny them. She felt a strong connection between them and wanted to take it further.
She and He spent every single day sharing so much love and happiness with each other. He made her feel wanted, and filled up that empty space in her life. She had blind faith in him. She started dreaming of her future with him, how life would be one...two...three years and so on... down the lane.
He established upon her a sense of security and promised to be with her through thick and thin. He showed her the way of living, what was required of her after they would officially be announced man and wife. She was excited, yet scared and perplexed. A whole new life was ahead of her. Would She able to live upto his expectations? Can She keep him happy for life? Such questions kept arising in her mind. She was determined to do her best for him.
A couple of months later, She had to go on a vacation with her family. She was upset about the fact that She could not see him for so many days. But she took her dreams along with her. All along the trip, she made plans for the future, both near and far. She was so fond of romantic songs, she used to hear them all day and fantasize about him! Days passed by somehow and it was time to return back to him! She was never more excited.
As soon as She got back, She rang him up. He spoke a few words and hung up. She called back a couple of times more, to be turned down again. She had no clue about what was going on. She waited and tried calling, at regular intervals. No answer!
A couple of months passed by, and then She learn't from someone else, he was just a crook who liked playing with hearts! She was completely shattered and lost faith in herself, besides the world around her. She knew not where to go, whom to talk to. She was absolutely lost and broken, just like when a baby is separated from his parents and is so helpless that he can only cry!
She was lucky to have a couple of friends by her side who helped her through this rough phase of life! When She lost him, She thought She wouldn't find happiness again. But thanks to her loved ones, She managed to walk out of it and move on, though it took quite a while.
Later She got a call from him saying that He was confused and didn't know where his heart lay! This time she didn't hesitate to tell him to get out of her life! This whole incident made her strong and She now could reason out things before actually giving into them.
What's ironic is: He is now married to someone else who has the same name as She!!
While struggling through a crisis situation, She was approached by this seemingly charming guy who indirectly claimed to be in love with her. When He confessed his feelings for her, She could not deny them. She felt a strong connection between them and wanted to take it further.
She and He spent every single day sharing so much love and happiness with each other. He made her feel wanted, and filled up that empty space in her life. She had blind faith in him. She started dreaming of her future with him, how life would be one...two...three years and so on... down the lane.
He established upon her a sense of security and promised to be with her through thick and thin. He showed her the way of living, what was required of her after they would officially be announced man and wife. She was excited, yet scared and perplexed. A whole new life was ahead of her. Would She able to live upto his expectations? Can She keep him happy for life? Such questions kept arising in her mind. She was determined to do her best for him.
A couple of months later, She had to go on a vacation with her family. She was upset about the fact that She could not see him for so many days. But she took her dreams along with her. All along the trip, she made plans for the future, both near and far. She was so fond of romantic songs, she used to hear them all day and fantasize about him! Days passed by somehow and it was time to return back to him! She was never more excited.
As soon as She got back, She rang him up. He spoke a few words and hung up. She called back a couple of times more, to be turned down again. She had no clue about what was going on. She waited and tried calling, at regular intervals. No answer!
A couple of months passed by, and then She learn't from someone else, he was just a crook who liked playing with hearts! She was completely shattered and lost faith in herself, besides the world around her. She knew not where to go, whom to talk to. She was absolutely lost and broken, just like when a baby is separated from his parents and is so helpless that he can only cry!
She was lucky to have a couple of friends by her side who helped her through this rough phase of life! When She lost him, She thought She wouldn't find happiness again. But thanks to her loved ones, She managed to walk out of it and move on, though it took quite a while.
Later She got a call from him saying that He was confused and didn't know where his heart lay! This time she didn't hesitate to tell him to get out of her life! This whole incident made her strong and She now could reason out things before actually giving into them.
What's ironic is: He is now married to someone else who has the same name as She!!
Sunday, March 9, 2008
How could I "Screw it up" ?!?
College days have been few of the most memorable days of most people's lives, more for good reasons. But I have one such experience which makes the same days memorable for the wrong reason.
Our college was about to launch it's own radio channel on air. Few classes were selected, where all students had to form groups and write up programmes with the appropriate timing, description and the title. Fortunately or unfortunately, my class was selected too. We formed our groups, and I was part of one of the most naughtiest gangs in class! The word 'naughty' was just the opposite of what I was though.
So we had about 40 minutes to write the whole thing. I was chosen to write down whatever was discussed, as people consider my handwriting to be very good. So we discussed, and I, hardly giving any input as usual, was writing down everything. Soon, the time was up and we had to submit our papers. But we hadn't thought of a title yet!! So all had brainstormed and brought out weird titles. Finally someone said "Screw it up" it is! All agreed thinking it did suit the programme, and somehow, without giving it another thought, I merely wrote it down on the paper.
Few months passed, it was the final year of college, when suddenly one day the Head of our Department walked into class and called me outside. All were wondering what's goin on. And here I was, standing outside, being yelled at! I was blamed for writing that title, for having thought of screwing up the Radio channel!! I was in a state of shock and tried explaining that it wasn't my idea at all. I have never used the term "Screw it up" ever in my life. It just does not exist in my vocabulary. But no one would understand, and I stood there just shedding away tears. I apologised repeatedly, but in vain.
I then got to hear from them that I was the only student who was so good-natured, and now I had also joined the 'rowdy' gang! I was told that I had almost been selected for the 'Student of the Year Award', but now due to this cheap act of mine, I would have to forego it! I couldn't believe my ears. I wished it wasn't for real. All i could think of was why did I ever write that without even thinking once!
That was the last I ever wrote on behalf of anyone else, infact I wrote nothing which wasn't for my own use. I just couldn't bear that shock. One mistake had spoilt almost three years of my good reputation in college.
Our college was about to launch it's own radio channel on air. Few classes were selected, where all students had to form groups and write up programmes with the appropriate timing, description and the title. Fortunately or unfortunately, my class was selected too. We formed our groups, and I was part of one of the most naughtiest gangs in class! The word 'naughty' was just the opposite of what I was though.
So we had about 40 minutes to write the whole thing. I was chosen to write down whatever was discussed, as people consider my handwriting to be very good. So we discussed, and I, hardly giving any input as usual, was writing down everything. Soon, the time was up and we had to submit our papers. But we hadn't thought of a title yet!! So all had brainstormed and brought out weird titles. Finally someone said "Screw it up" it is! All agreed thinking it did suit the programme, and somehow, without giving it another thought, I merely wrote it down on the paper.
Few months passed, it was the final year of college, when suddenly one day the Head of our Department walked into class and called me outside. All were wondering what's goin on. And here I was, standing outside, being yelled at! I was blamed for writing that title, for having thought of screwing up the Radio channel!! I was in a state of shock and tried explaining that it wasn't my idea at all. I have never used the term "Screw it up" ever in my life. It just does not exist in my vocabulary. But no one would understand, and I stood there just shedding away tears. I apologised repeatedly, but in vain.
I then got to hear from them that I was the only student who was so good-natured, and now I had also joined the 'rowdy' gang! I was told that I had almost been selected for the 'Student of the Year Award', but now due to this cheap act of mine, I would have to forego it! I couldn't believe my ears. I wished it wasn't for real. All i could think of was why did I ever write that without even thinking once!
That was the last I ever wrote on behalf of anyone else, infact I wrote nothing which wasn't for my own use. I just couldn't bear that shock. One mistake had spoilt almost three years of my good reputation in college.
Friday, March 7, 2008
Lost and Found!
I was looking forward to meeting a few people who became close to my heart, who shared similar interests as mine, and whom i could confide in. The day came soon. I was there, looking at them in amazement, wondering whether I really made it or was I dreaming!
Being the only girl, I did feel odd at times. But since we all were good friends by then, it made things easier for me. We did have a blast together. Yeah they found me lost in some other world occasionally, when i was either cherishing old memories or when i was merely looking at the clock ticking. Anyway, everything went on smoothly, until a few words did us apart. Bound by expectations from all sides, I had to make a compromise, which was misunderstood. Sorting that out didn't take too much time, though the whole thing was quite hard on all of us. Trying to be normal again, things turned out for the worse. A bigger misunderstanding occurred, which left us all shattered. We all had our own set of grudges and grievances. Little did we think from the other's perspective. It all seemed to be over.
Back at my place, a few days passed by and I realised what went wrong. I took the initiative to bring us all back together, just like good old times. Be it an apology or 'Gandhigiri', emotional blackmail or pure begging, I tried my hand at everything. It took a short while to convince a few, while it took ages to make others realise it wasn't worth losing everything we had! Thanks to the people who helped me with this.
Now the most important thing here is I don't regret going there at all. It was a great experience overall to meet some dear ones, and a special mention to the person who made it there for me to make my special day worth alot more. I do regret committing a few mistakes, but then they happened unintentionally. This whole trip has taught me many things which I can take care of in future, in order to avoid losing close ones!
I am grateful to everyone for giving me another chance to be a good friend and try in my own little way to keep them happy.
Just a little thought that appeared in my mind now:
What is life without friends? A film without a crew! What could the actors do without people to show them the way?!
Being the only girl, I did feel odd at times. But since we all were good friends by then, it made things easier for me. We did have a blast together. Yeah they found me lost in some other world occasionally, when i was either cherishing old memories or when i was merely looking at the clock ticking. Anyway, everything went on smoothly, until a few words did us apart. Bound by expectations from all sides, I had to make a compromise, which was misunderstood. Sorting that out didn't take too much time, though the whole thing was quite hard on all of us. Trying to be normal again, things turned out for the worse. A bigger misunderstanding occurred, which left us all shattered. We all had our own set of grudges and grievances. Little did we think from the other's perspective. It all seemed to be over.
Back at my place, a few days passed by and I realised what went wrong. I took the initiative to bring us all back together, just like good old times. Be it an apology or 'Gandhigiri', emotional blackmail or pure begging, I tried my hand at everything. It took a short while to convince a few, while it took ages to make others realise it wasn't worth losing everything we had! Thanks to the people who helped me with this.
Now the most important thing here is I don't regret going there at all. It was a great experience overall to meet some dear ones, and a special mention to the person who made it there for me to make my special day worth alot more. I do regret committing a few mistakes, but then they happened unintentionally. This whole trip has taught me many things which I can take care of in future, in order to avoid losing close ones!
I am grateful to everyone for giving me another chance to be a good friend and try in my own little way to keep them happy.
Just a little thought that appeared in my mind now:
What is life without friends? A film without a crew! What could the actors do without people to show them the way?!
What I need is what I got!!
Some said dumb, some useless, while others said good-for-nothing or plain incapable. Boy! Didn't i believe that!
I was living, but living how? The thought of never being able to stand on my own feet, and that I needed some kind of a support to hold me up, almost shattered me. The fear of loneliness, abandonment and all that goes with it wasn't enough, that I had to even fear my means of livelihood. What if one day I have no one? What if one day I am responsible for someone's bread and butter? Could I do it? Am i capable of taking up such responsibilities? Can I be the one to support someone some day? Can i earn a single penny even?
That's when March 6, 2008 came in and brought me some hope. Hope, which turned into encouragement. I got my first pay ever, for something I did which seemed to be a minor thing to most people. But I do believe in 'something is better than nothing'. That work could mean nothing to a few people, that pay close to nothing. But it's the sense of accomplishment that has now got me geared up to achieve even more.
I am thankful to all those people involved in making me realise what I'm worthy of. If it weren't for them, I would have still been living in a world of fear. I needed some sort of a boost, and I got just that! I'm now confident of pulling through ages to come.
I was living, but living how? The thought of never being able to stand on my own feet, and that I needed some kind of a support to hold me up, almost shattered me. The fear of loneliness, abandonment and all that goes with it wasn't enough, that I had to even fear my means of livelihood. What if one day I have no one? What if one day I am responsible for someone's bread and butter? Could I do it? Am i capable of taking up such responsibilities? Can I be the one to support someone some day? Can i earn a single penny even?
That's when March 6, 2008 came in and brought me some hope. Hope, which turned into encouragement. I got my first pay ever, for something I did which seemed to be a minor thing to most people. But I do believe in 'something is better than nothing'. That work could mean nothing to a few people, that pay close to nothing. But it's the sense of accomplishment that has now got me geared up to achieve even more.
I am thankful to all those people involved in making me realise what I'm worthy of. If it weren't for them, I would have still been living in a world of fear. I needed some sort of a boost, and I got just that! I'm now confident of pulling through ages to come.
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